Frazzled Marc, half way through my 40s!

Frazzled Marc, half way through my 40s!
Frazzled Marc, half way through my 40s!

Saturday, January 21, 2017

Online Political Convo? I'll Pass...



As a regular blogger, I am attached by way of email or username to many popular social media websites. I use most of them to promote my blog. Some I just connect to as an observer. My good friend from college, Sharon posted a question on her Facebook page asking how many did we participate in and I was shocked when mine added up to more than 10!

In this day and age, if I want to develop an online presence and following, it is necessary to try and be involved promoting yourself through various social media websites. Some though, such as SoundCloud, I listen to for the music. I do most of my blog promotion on my Facebook page, Twitter, Instagram, and LinkedIn. With everything seemingly online, all of my sites are just a click away. If someone likes my taste in music, maybe they will check out my blog or my tweets and vice versa.

I tend to think of my overall online presence as rather vanilla though. I'll be the first to admit, I don't often get involved in controversial topics. If this were magazine format,, my blogs would probably do well in magazines like Good Housekeeping, Country Living, Life, Saturday Evening Post, Vanity Fair etc. Give me a good old-school variety mag with human interest pieces and I'm sure I would fit right in!

I find myself growing tired of witnessing horrible nasty drag-out fights on Facebook involving people who are family, friends and strangers arguing with one another to the point of embarrassment. I truly don't feel that posting political rants on Facebook creates an atmosphere for a good conversation and dialogue. You don't get anywhere. No one ever seems to change their opinion!

This is how it seemingly goes. Someone posts an inflammatory statement, religious or political. Invariably friends who are in support jump on the band wagon. You have that one brave individual who speaks up against the discussed position. He or she then gets slammed by long vitriolic tirades against them. Who wants to open themselves up to that? Who actively chooses to be cyber-bullied by nameless individuals or strangers? Sorry but I'm not a masochist.

It's so easy to hide behind your phone or computer. If you wanna have a meaningful conversation, try doing it offline. But honestly, I may not engage you there either. And guess what, texting does not work either! Points are misconstrued, people read other's comments incorrectly.

Let just say that I'll leave the arguments for the pundits. I don't have the time to engage in political discussions which probably won't effect me in the short term or when I know neither your opinion will change mine or vice versa. It's a waste of time going around in circles. You are probably thinking, well that's pretty judgmental, how do YOU know Marc Haynes? Well for starters, I see it directly on past posts on various individual's' pages. Not to mention that my time can be better spent in more meaningful ways with family, friends, and home. How much time do people spend arguing back and forth, posting stuff just to rile people up?

It is hard for me to think that any meaningful conversation can occur back and forth on certain social media websites. I liken it to you and I trying to have a thoughtful discussion in a stadium full of strangers. I make a comment, you make a comment. Then all of a sudden, some stranger comes rushing in and makes a rude comment biting my head off. I don't even know this person!!! Why would any sane individual want to subject themselves to that?

Now before you begin to feel that this post is about you, realize it can apply to about 40 or so people that I know online. But it may be about you... or not. Ha-Ha-Ha. And it's not just for my Republican friends, but also for my Democratic friends. No disrespect is meant but just how I see it. It annoys me when I see a political rant with 30+ comments going back and forth with everyone trying to "out insult" each other. More than likely I'll pass on by and keep swiping.

In conclusion, as a blogger, I know that I open myself up to criticism and comments. I accept that. But my blog is not controversial, it's pretty vanilla with some nuts and chocolate chips thrown in (what does that even mean? Ha-ha.). My time can be better spent commenting on the fun crazy stuff of this world like Kellyanne Conway's nutcracker outfit to the Inauguration. I'll let others have all of the nasty argumentative stuff. I've gots no time for that!

Listen, I've had 5 friends, middle aged to senior citizen, pass away in the last two months from various health issues. It gets very difficult seeing your friends pass away. I'd rather spend my time doing more meaningful interactions with family and friends than wasting time arguing online. You never know when your time may be up. My friends, how much time do you spend on ridiculous online arguments which go absolutely no where?




Monday, January 9, 2017

Resolutions I Will NOT Keep


Possible New Year's Resolutions...

Over the years resolutions have come to annoy me. People (including myself) write a list of things that they want to accomplish or complete in the following year. Some superficial (lose 25 pounds, buy that car), some pretty deep (be a better parent, child, etc). Some silly (eat less chocolate), some kinda serious (keep in touch with family). 

I would diligently write my list, placing it in the interior cover of my yearly planner and then forget about it until the end of the year. I found that some resolutions I would do without even checking the list, like going through old clothes on a rainy day. Many would ultimately just be transferred over to the next year's list.

The only ones I really kept were practicing a healthier lifestyle, working out, and petting the cats more. The others, like learn a new language, completing the yard work, learn to like children etc, seemed to not happen year after year.

It occurred to me that those several resolutions which I would continuously transfer from year to year would never happen! I have decided to be proactive and instead finally remove them from the master list. Therefore, I never have to suffer through the guilt of seeing them at the end of year, staring at me, mocking me, laughing at me, sitting there uncrossed off! Yes, I have a lot of time on my hands.


Resolutions I am NEVER going to add to my list EVER AGAIN:

1. Become more flexible: Come on now. I am WAY too set in my ways at this point. Thank G-d for my 40s. Deal with it.

2. Organize my CD collection: Yeah, I'll do that right after I alphabetize my cassettes.

3. Plant something in the far flower beds of the yard: If something grows over there it's either a weed or some bird crapped out a seed.

4. Organize books and photos:  See #2.

5. Stop having half of the conversation in my head before I speak: Listen people, I start speaking often in mid-thought. YOU need to just figure it out and catch up. 😊

6. Spackle and paint the laundry room wall: I've come to like the drywall look anyway.

7. Stop eating in car:  Today I had buffalo scrapple with BBQ sauce. I also once ate a bowl of soup while driving down the highway. Don't worry, the soup had cooled off by that point and I didn't burn myself. Luckily the cop who pulled me over just gave me a warning.

8. Cut back on caffeine: I will say to you what I said to my doctor. "Caffeine should be the least of my problems! Do you know what the $@*&# that I used to do in my 20s?!  No seriously, because I don't remember ..."

9. Stop worrying:  Won't happen LOL. It's a trait I was proudly born with. Talk to my sister. We got it from our Mother who got it from our Nana.

10. Lowering my voice: HELLO??? It's MARC!!!! My ears are always clogged up due to my never-ending allergies. Excuse given, move on.

11. Like children: There is an exception. I do like children when they are three houses down from me.

12, Learn a language:  I know a little Yiddish, a little Spanish, and a whole lotta of bullshit.











Monday, January 2, 2017

Discovering Roasted Cauliflower!

For my little Christmas Eve Open House, I channeled Mom Abby and put out a traditional crudite' platter of veggies along with her recipe for a spiced up veggie curry dip. It kicked ass! Check out my Mom's recipe and subsequent blog post on that:

Recipe: http://frazzledatforty.blogspot.com/2014/01/a-vegetable-dip-with-kick.html

Italian-style Roasted Cauliflower
Long story short: I cut up enough vegetables for an army but I barely invited a troop! LOL. What to do with all those veggies? There aren't enough vegetarians in the world. Now I knew I could do a stir fry with a bunch of them but I still had a ton of broccoli and a head of cauliflower larger than a butter ball turkey! SERIOUSLY.

So I did some research online because I decided I wanted to try something different than just steaming the cauliflower. Now I'm health conscious but I had definitely eaten my fill of raw veggies. Somewhere through the last couple years I remembered seeing a recipe for roasted cauliflower so I went that route.

I discovered the recipe below and modified it to my own tastes adding Italian spices instead of thyme. After all, I ain't got time for that.... get it? LMAO. OK really bad joke. Anyway, the original recipe is linked below and afterwords is my modified recipe! (The better one.. hahaha.)

http://www.epicurious.com/recipes/food/views/parmesan-roasted-cauliflower-51143020

Marc's Italian Style Roasted Cauliflower

Ingredients:

- 1 head cauliflower
- 2 chopped shallots
- 4 chopped or minced garlic cloves
- 3-4 Tblspn Italian seasoning mix (basil, oregano, rosemary, savory, marjoram)
- 4-6 Tblspn olive oil
- Kosher salt
- black pepper
- 1/2 cup grated Parmesan

Preheat oven to 425'F. Cut cauliflower into 1 to 1/2 inch florets. Spray down nonstick pan with olive oil spray. Mix garlic, cauliflower, shallots, seasonings, salt and pepper. Roast, flipping and tossing cauliflower occasionally, 35-40 minutes. Transfer to bowl and toss with grated Parm cheese. Use more cheese if you'd like.

The recipe online states to roast 10-12 minutes longer after sprinkling with Parm cheese until the cauliflower is tender., I DID NOT do this. I like my cauliflower a little more al dente. I could've even stopped the cooking at 35 minutes. Will shorten the time a little bit more maybe next time. It really comes down to how tender or hard you like your roasted cauliflower.

It's a great easy recipe you can do which will produce a roasted cauliflower that is earthy, garlicky, and nutty. Maybe even the kids will like it.

Doubtful though, the little monsters.